Are you truly happy right now or are you waiting on something to happen
in your life; like that new job, that new relationship, going to
college, getting that new car, starting your own business, quit your job
to travel, and being able to get your dream home?
I put happy off a very longtime and I suffered greatly for it. Since I
wanted to own my own business, I allowed my relationships to suffer and
some even died. I kept telling myself the end justifies the means. To
say the least I was very unhappy during these phase of my life.
However during that phase of my life I did a lot of study
of psychology and the way humans think and interact with others and more
importantly themselves.
I was making a few fatal mistakes that kept me unhappy, even when
people on the outside saying I should be happy or grateful. It’s not
that I was not grateful, I was very appreciated of what I had, but I did
not get happy because of it.
I had family members, church members, friends, strangers, telling me
how to get happy and it did not work. I prayed, pleaded, and pitied
myself.
Here is a small sample of what I came up with.
Be True -This is
something more than just telling the truth. This is really about
re-evaluating everything you were taught growing up and looking at with
with a different lens.
For example as a child to a young 18yr old adult, I was told if I
went to college that it would get me a great job and the only way to
success. Hahaha that definitely was not true for me or million of
Americans.
So I went to college because that is what was expected of me, but
deep inside me…it just felt wrong. Every molecule in my body vibrated
with the intensity of a thousands suns.
I can give you several examples of me not being true to myself;
especially in my relationships. I will save that for another article.
Be Transparent -This
is about not having a secret agenda and letting people know your
intentions. I know this will probably be the hardest thing to do
initially, but a lot of burden will be lifted from your shoulders.
For example when people start a romantic relationship that pussyfoot
around what they want. A lot of feelings can be spared if people would
be transparent. I meet a very nice woman and she looks very good (fyi i
do not care if you think I am vain…haha) to me. Now when I see her I may
not be thinking I want to date her. I am probably thinking I want to
have sex with her.
But what do people do, guys would go up to said vixen and have her to
believe he wants a relationship when he only wanted sex. That is not
fair to either of you.
Let people know what your intentions are. You may lose some people
that way, but it is better than being fake. People will respect you
more.
Be Tenacious -It’s
that never say die attitude…Facing against all odds an having that edge
about you that you will conquer whatever that is in your way, no matter
what. You have to be a bulldog and if you have not been around a
bulldog, let me tell you that is a tenacious breed. No matter the size
of the threat, the bulldog shows know fear.
You have to be tenacious to Be Transparent and to Be True.
I know it’s going to be tough, but there is great reward for
following these fundamental Happiness Triggers. These three are the
foundations to your happiness.
I know it works, I am not only a client, but I’m also the President.
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